Wednesday, February 02, 2011
Would you like to improve your
relationship with your animal companion?
Are there behavior issues that you would be grateful to have addressed? I have found the single most effective
treatment for gaining an animal’s trust and cooperation is by taking the time
to tune into him/her. It is
imperative to have clear and benevolent intentions. Approach each exchange with an animal with an open mind and
a wide-open, pure heart. Check in
with individuals consciously. Look
kindly into their eyes with an open, receptive attitude and peaceful
demeanor. Do not stare them
down or try to dominate. This
creates animosity and fear, and the exact opposite of trust.
Merely giving a pet additional attention
can create a HUGE shift in the nature of your interactions. Employ the power of touch, but respect
each individual’s boundaries and preferences about what is acceptable, where
you can touch, what kind of pressure is comfortable for them, and for how
long. Listen to each other! If your cat keeps meowing and she’s
already been fed, she may really want some attention and strokes behind the
ear. Fulfill needs daily:
high quality food free of cancer-causing preservatives (avoid BHA, BHT, ethoxyquine),
gentle brushing, walks /litter pan scooping, clean filtered water, fresh green
grass or catnip, play time, meditation/contemplation time, nail trims,
conscious intentional affection.
These are the basic needs that will help you and your pet to bond if you
actively seek to fulfill them.
If behaviors change, such as sudden
scratching or biting after a long petting session, think about where your
thoughts went when the change in behavior occurred. Or perhaps the animal was just over-stimulated, so again, be
conscious in your interactions. If
you see a change come across their eyes, ears, or body language, they may have
had enough. If your pet does not enjoy
being touched in a certain area, perhaps it is time to address medical concerns
there. It is very common for cats
to get overly sensitive if they are pet near their tail. Many of these cats have stiffness in
their hip joints or lower back, which can easily be treated safely with
acupuncture and herbs.
There is always room for enhanced
growth/understanding about each other.
We are in relationship with our pets, as we are with every person we
meet every day. If there are
children in the house, make sure they learn appropriate behavior around the
animals. Even in a busy household,
ten to thirty minutes two or three times daily for focused attention and real
walks can do wonders for family dynamics.
The exercise and health promoting benefits of taking the time to slow
down and care for all members of the family is priceless. By acknowledging needs of all beings we
are guardians for, we teach kids how to respect life and find harmony with
others. The bonding that results
helps keep everyone happier and more responsible.