Thursday, October 02, 2008
Do you have sharks in your life? This is a wonderful quote from Mark Twain...
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
Recently my family and I experienced a week of pure tension in a situation that had been going on for months with several other people. Nothing we did was ever good enough. By telling this story over and over again trying to figure out a solution I saw myself beating the drum of victim. I wanted to do this pattern differently but was letting myself stay stuck in the story. We can not change a situation by doing the same thing over and over again. I realized these people were sharks in our lives not dolphins, and there isn’t anything we can do about them and their patterns, it isn't up to us to change their behavior. But what is key, is to change our behavior of what we believe in ourselves.
I asked myself this question, "who told you that you had to make the best of a bad situation"? I realized, Get out! Go swimming in a different ocean with better fish. We don’t have to put up with bad behavior from anyone. We don’t have to pay any more dues. Relationships are key and the most important one is the one you have with yourself. What bad behavior are you allowing from others that are causing undue stress in your life? You have to make the change for yourself; no one can do it for you. What I have found with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Sufferers after being abused is we tend to people please, that can create anger because you are pleasing everyone else but yourself. Learn to say no to others bad behavior and know you are worth happy and healthy relationships in your life. Let go of the sharks and go swim with the dolphins.