Colorado Spiritual Healing and Relationships

Divorced Women – Are Your Ready to Flourish in 2011?

Hi.  I am Debra Gordy, Spiritual Healing Intuitive, Flourish Relationship Coach, and author of the forth-coming book Cinderella Wisdom: A Woman’s Journey of Spiritual Healing to the Marriage of Her Dreams.  For over twenty-five years, I have been guiding women in healing from divorce, and creating the marriages of their dreams – in the real world.           

If you are a divorced woman, or know divorced women, you know that this all-too-common life experience can be a time of heartache, pain, turmoil, and crisis.  But it doesn't have to be.  Divorce, though painful for most, can also be a catalyst to more flourishing in a woman's personal life, her career, with her children and other relationships, and ultimately to the happy lasting marriage most women seek.

Over the years, I have learned what divorced women need to successfully transverse this journey from pain and crisis to deepened personal and relationship happiness.  In fact, I have taken this journey first-hand, having been previously divorced.  I am now happily married to a wonderful man, and I am on a mission to share with other divorced women the answers, solutions, hope and healing that I found.  To support and guide divorced women on this journey, I have included much of the wisdom I gained in this one-of-a-kind Flourish Coaching Group Program - From Crisis to Catalyst:  The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway to Healing from Your Divorce, Rebuilding Your Life & Reclaiming Your Dreams!

In this 11-week specialized group coaching program, divorced women will go beyond '"surviving" or "recovering" from their divorce, to gaining the catalyzing energy and purpose that divorce can call forth from within us, when we open ourselves to the deeper purpose that divorce can serve.  Divorce doesn't have to remain a crisis - women can move through it to an entire new level of flourishing and fulfillment in all areas of their lives.

 
In this one-of-a-kind Flourish Coaching group, participants will learn:

·         The 10-Step divorce recovery re-building blocks and the emotional path of healing

·         The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway for transforming your divorce from crisis to catalyst

·         Awesome Spiritual Energy Healing™ self-care tools and tips specifically for healing from divorce, and moving beyond your divorce to flourishing

·          How to follow your own progress on the journey

·         How to know when you are ready for a new relationship

·         The Secret to doing it differently the next time around, so you can co-create a happy, lasting and fulfilling new marriage

 The Number 1 Attraction Factor for attracting a perfect new relationship, (when the time is right for you)

            SPECIAL BONUSES - ANNOUNCED AT THE FREE PREVIEW CALL, INCLUDING HOW TO RECEIVE A FREE 20-MINUTE CONSULTATION WITH ME!

To register for the FREE preview call, click here:

Participants will benefit from:

·         Membership in a unique online community of women committed to moving from divorce crisis to catalyst, and flourishing in all areas of their lives

·         Participation from any location!  This coaching group will be held via teleconference

·          Recordings of all coaching group calls, so you can review again or participate at another time if needed

·         Unique course materials

·         The magic and power of Evolutionary Sisterhood partnerships

·          Surprise Bonuses!

 You are invited to join me for a FREE 1.5 hour Preview Call: The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway to Healing from Your Divorce, and Spring Boarding to the Life of Your Dreams! 

This call will be held twice:

 Tuesday, Jan. 4. 2011, at 7:30 – 9:00 PM CT
Saturday, Jan. 8, 2011 at 10:30 AM – 12:00 PM CT

 In this call, I will:

·         Discuss the 10 most crucial Rebuilding Blocks for emotional healing from divorce

·         Share more details about the coaching group

·         Unveil the pitfalls of traditional divorce recovery, and what is more effective instead

·         Share 3 of the Feminine Spiritual Power principles for life & relationship transformation

·         Teach 1 Flourish self-care technique particularly supportive for divorced women

·         Answer your questions about the coaching group

Announce the Special Surprise Bonuses for this Coaching Group, AND HOW TO RECEIVE A 20-MINUTE CONSULTATION WITH ME, AT NO CHARGE!

This coaching group will fill quickly, and we are limited in the number of participants we can accommodate by our teleconference bridge service, so I encourage you to sign up for one of the free calls today. 

You can move through the crisis of divorce, into flourishing in your life, when you harness the catalyzing energy within you.  Through Crisis to Catalyst, you can launch into deepened happiness and joy than you may believe possible right now.  2011 can be your year to begin flourishing.  Let me be your guide and mentor on the journey, as I have done for other divorced women for over twenty-five years now. 

Take the first step to healing from your divorce, rebuilding your life, and reclaiming your dreams, and enroll in one of the FREE preview calls today. 

In warm invitation,

Debra

Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Flourish Relationship Coach

www.WomensDivorceHealing.com

Please share this invitation with other divorced women who may benefit.

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If you are a divorced woman, or know divorced women, you know that this all-too-common life experience can be a time of heartache, sorrow and crisis, anger, resentment, grief, guilt, and a host of other things.  But it doesn't have to be.  Divorce, though painful for most, can also be a catalyst to more flourishing in a woman's personal life, her career, with her children and other relationships, and ultimately to the happy lasting marriage most women seek.
 
To support and guide divorced women on this journey, I am thrilled to announce my Flourish Coaching Group Program - From Crisis to Catalyst:  The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway to Healing from Your Divorce, Rebuilding Your Life & Reclaiming Your Dreams!
 
In this 11-week specialized group coaching program, divorced women will go beyond '"surviving" or "recovering" from their divorce, to gaining the catalyzing energy and purpose that divorce can call forth from within us, when we open ourselves to this deeper purpose that divorce can serve.  Divorce doesn't have to remain a crisis - women can move through it to an entire new level of flourishing and fulfillment in all areas of their lives.
 
In this one-of-a-kind Flourish Coaching group, participants will learn:
 
* The 10-Step divorce recovery re-building blocks and the emotional path of healing
* The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway for transforming your divorce from crisis to catalyst
* Awesome Spiritual Energy Healing self-care tools and tips specifically for healing from your divorce, and moving beyond  it to flourishing
* How to deternine your own progress on the journey
* How to know when you are ready for a new relationship
* The Secret to doing it differently the next time around, so you can co-create a happy, lasting and fulfilling new marriage
* The number 1 Attraction Factor for attracting a perfect new relationship, (when the time is right for you)
* MORE!
 
Participants will benefit from:
* Membership in a unique online community of women committed to moving from divorce crisis to catalyst, and flourishing in all areas of their lives
* Recordings of all coaching group calls, so you can review again or participate at another time if needed.
* Unique course materials
* The magic of Evolutionary Sisterhood partnerships
* Surprise Bonuses!
 
 

I will be previewing the unique Flourish Coaching group in a FREE 1.5 hour preview call: The Feminine Spiritual Power Pathway to Healing from Your Divorce, and Spring Boarding to the Life of Your Dreams!, on Tuesday, Jan. 4. 2011.  In this call, I will be:
 
*  Explaining more about the coaching group
*  Sharing 3 of the Feminine Spiritual Power principles for life transformation
*  Teaching 1 Flourish self-care technique
*  Answering your questions about the coaching group
 
To learn more and to register for the FREE preview call, click here:
 
 
The cost for this unique coaching group is a special low fee  of $372.00 for the entire 11-week series.  Or if you prefer, you may choose a 3-payment plan of $157.00 per month for three months.    This is the only time this coaching group will be offered at this low fee. 
 
This coaching group will fill up quickly, so I encourage you to enroll today, by visiting this page on my website.
 
2011 can be the year that you spring board from your divorce to an entire new level of flourishing in your life.   I look forward to spending a catalyzing 11 weeks together!
 
I so encourage you to sign up for the FREE preview call, and enroll for the group today.   
 
 Warm Wishes for Flourishing in Life & Love in 2011!

Debra
www.WomensDivorceHealing.com

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I recently read an article in the alumni magazine from my alma mater, entitled, "Why Giving Matters".   The author told a striking story about the industrialist, John D. Rockefeller, who stated, " 'God gave me my money' ". 

While some may misinterpret this statement, Rockefeller firmly believed that  “‘the power to make money is a gift from God . . . to be developed and used to the best of our ability for the good of mankind'.  He truly believed that he made money because he was charged with helping others, and that if he stopped giving his money in the right way, then God would take his money away."

In the economic times in which we live, this is powerful food for thought. 


Reading this article gave me pause to consider ~ how am I investing my money in helping others, in contributing to the upliftment and blessing of others' lives?  How am I contributing to alleviate suffering in the world? 

A dear friend and colleague of mine, Dr. Barbara Stone, is doing something awesome with hers.   She and her partner are volunteering their time, talents, resources and loving hearts to go to Rwanda with The Grace Process International,  to provide practical resources and powerful healing for the children left orphaned when their parents died in the genocide that wiped out 20% of the Rwandan population in 100 days. 

These children lived through unimaginable horror, and now have few adults to care for and teach them, and yet they are demonstrating the amazing capacity of the human heart for forgiveness, kindness and reconciliation, through the relief work of friends and agencies like Barbara and  the Grace Process. 

We have the opportunity to participate in making a difference, through our donations to this 503C nonprofit corporation.  While Barbara and her colleagues are paying their personal expenses, they still need guides and jeeps, and interpreters, and many other things to bring their healing mission to the children of Rwanda.

Please join me today in helping Barbara to bring healing from God and the angels to these children.   Those who contribute online will receive updates from the field, and the first opportunity to view the documentary they will be filming about their healing mission. 

The trip is planned for September 2009, so they need our donations right away!  All donations are tax deductible.   I hope you will join with me and make as generous a donation as you can in your circumstances.

You will be a miracle worker and experience indescribable joy!


Warmly,                                                                                                     

Debra 


Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach

Author of the forth-coming book, Cinderella Wisdom:  A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to Her Dream Marriage.

www.CinderellaDreamsComeTrue.com

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Is money a source of stress and conflict in your marriage? 

If so, you are not alone!  Money is one of the most frequent topics of conflict between couples.  

If you want to learn how to destress the topic of money in your marriage, please join me for this fun, enlightening and empowering luncheon for women only!

While enjoying a lovely seasonal luncheon, including dessert, participants will be inspired, enlightened and empowered with new information and new skills for creating the marriage of their dreams in the real world.


The topic for the July luncheon is:  Money, Marriage and You!

 
During this month's luncheon you will learn:

      * The underlying reasons that cause couples to fight about money
      * The link between money and primal fear

      * What you can do to deal with money issues in a way that protects your marriage
          from falling apart due to money stress and conflict.

 
Date:    July 30, 2009
Time:   11:30am - 1:00pm

Location:  The Moot House Restaurant
                         2626 S. College Ave.
                         Ft. Collins, CO

Cost:   Reserve your place by June 26, 2009 and your fee is only $20.00! 

All those who register by this early-bird deadline will receive a FREE  report, "Warren Buffet Reveals What to Do if You Lost Money in the Stock Market".


             $22.00 if registered by 12:00 pm
              July 24, 2009.

             $27.00 for registrations thereafter, 
               until 12:00 pm July 28, 2009.  

 Pre-registration is required.  Due to catering requirements no at-the-door reservations will be accepted. 

Space is limited to 18 participants, so register today at http://www.DebraGordyMS.com/calendar/calendar_day/4187798/2009-7-30.htm

I hope you will join for this woman's heart-to-heart chat, all about money, marriage and you!

Warmly,
Debra

Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach
Spiritual Healing Intuitive

Author of the forth-coming book, Cinderella Wisdom:  A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to the Marriage of Your Dreams

www.DebraGordyMS.com

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Date:    June 1, 2009

Time:  9:00 pm EST
                 8:00 pm CT
                 7:00 pm MT
                 6:00 pm PT


Please join me for this fun teleclass I will be doing with Laura Campbell, a colleague from Peaceful Divorce. 

In this fun, informative one hour FREE teleclass, Laura and I and participants will discuss:

1)  Is there a recipe for a happy relationship?
2)  What characteristics do most successful and lasting marriages have in common?

In this lively and enlightening teleclass, you will learn the 'ingredients' for a happy relationship, and Transformational tips you can use to strengthen yours today!   

Some of the "ingredients" will surprise you!

Please join Laura and I for this fun FREE teleclass by registering here:


Warmly,
Debra

Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach
Spiritual Healing Intuitive

Author of the forthcoming book, Cinderella Wisdom:  A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to Living Her Heart's Desire.

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“Partly Cloudy, Windy, Sun Mixed with Occasional Snow Showers”:  Springtime in the Rockies & Your Marriage

We had snow the first weekend in April, driving, blinding, Colorado blizzard-type snow.  The interstate north of us was closed, and cars were off the roads all over the place.   I drive out to a local dairy on Saturdays to pick up our weekly dairy order, and could hardly see the road in some places; the wind was blowing snow so badly.

Two days later, it  was warm, sunny, still, and my husband was outside pruning shrubbery, which has tender new green growth on all the plants in our garden.  The crabapple tree in front of my office window is covered in buds, and looks likely to burst open in a profusion of pink blossoms any day now.

My dad used to say, “If you don’t like the weather in Colorado, just wait a minute”.  This is never truer than in springtime.  The season of spring - a time of new beginnings, new growth - is a bumpy, up and down time.  Cold one day, hot the next, wind mixed with snow, mixed with sun.  Springtime in the Rockies can be quite ride.   Probably the most changeable season we have, far more so than autumn, spring is the season of biggest transition for us.

Eventually the weather evens out more, and we gradually find ourselves in summer.  Summers in Colorado are wonderful - warm, sometimes hot days, but low humidity so you don’t feel exhausted all the time.  Cool nights when the earth and the garden and families become refreshed.  Summer in Colorado is a steady, even season.  A few thunderstorms in July or August, but that is about all the storminess we have that time of year.  No wonder we have crowds of tourists in summer as well as winter!  

Marriages go through transitions, too, which subscribers read about this month in Creating Joy!  the Relationship E-newsletter.   Just as springtime in the Rockies can be a bumpy, tumultuous time of transition, but which does even out to the “lazy, hazy days of summer” in Colorado, so too, can the bumpy transition periods of marriage even out to stages of sweet fulfillment and fruition. 

This month, learn about the foundation Stages of Married Love, including which stages are the most tender transition points.  At the end of this three-part article which concludes with the June 09 issue,  discover my gleanings from over thirty years of observing thriving marriages, and what smart couples do through all the stages of their lives together, to Make Love Last a Lifetime!

If you don’t already subscribe to this free monthly ezine with timely inspiration and practical tips for creating the thriving marriage of your dreams, you can do so now:   http://www.DebraGordyMS.com/newsletter.html.  

When you do, you will receive the April issue with your confirmed subscription.

May this be a season of planting seeds for the marriage of your dreams!

Warmly,
Debra

Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach
Spiritual Healing Intuitive

www.DebraGordyMS.com

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Are You Searching for the Secrets to a Failure-free Marriage?

Then subscribe to Creating Joy! The Relationship E-newsletter.  This FREE monthly e-newsletter brings readers practical Transformational self-care tips, and timely inspiration and guidance.   As a Special Bonus, all subscribers will receive my Free Report, THE Question that Will Transform Your Relationship!

The recent 2009 Creating Joy! Readers’ Survey is now complete.  The responses were diverse and thoughtful, as well as wide-ranging.  They certainly sparked a lot of ideas for this year’s newsletter theme, and I am excited to announce that in 2009, subscribers will be inspired, motivated and guided to create a loving, lasting marriage with our annual e-newsletter theme:

                                             Making Love Last a Lifetime!

This year, subscribers will learn about:

     *The Foundation of a Happy Marriage:  What characteristics do most happy, successful and lasting marriages have in common?  Some of these will surprise you!

     *Stages of Married Love:  How do marriages change across the lifespan, and how does the experience of loving connection change?  Are there times in a marriage that are more vulnerable to stress, and developing problems?  What can be done to prevent or minimize those problems?

     *Are you Ready to (Re)Marry?  How do you know when you are ready to marry or marry again?  How do you know if you have found a partner who is a good match for you?  How do you know if your relationship with your beloved is ready for marriage?

    *Relationship Problem First-aid:  What can you do if you and your spouse start having problems?  How can you minimize them, and what can you do to get yourselves out?  How do you know when it is time to seek out professional help?

    *Resolving or Dissolving:  If your marriage unfortunately is in serious trouble, and you are thinking about pursuing a divorce, this article will share observations and wisdom from Debra’s 20+ years of experience as a Transformational Psychotherapist, Relationship Healing Intuitive and Spiritual Teacher to assist you in this difficult choice.

    *Daily Connections:  What seemingly small daily things you can do, beginning the day you read this article, that will make a difference and help keep your marriage strong, vital and flourishing?  What daily things can you do that will help revitalize even a struggling marriage?  

   *The Legacy of Lasting Love:  What is the impact of a strong, lasting, fulfilling marriage?  What long-term difference does it make for individual women and men?   What kind of legacy can you leave for others whom you love?   Why does marriage matter in the big picture of things anyway?

And last but not least, in the February 09 issue, subscribers will read about:

* Keeping Your Romance Alive!  Has your intimate relationship become ho-hum, indifferent or perhaps even near to non-existent?  What can you do to rekindle the spark of romance, to find the sizzle again in your love life?  In this issue, readers will learn my “Relationship Rx” to keep the sizzle to age 65 and beyond!

 Please join me for this fun, fabulous year of insight, timely inspiration, practical Transformational self-care tips, and spiritual guidance for making love last a lifetime for you!

To subscribe to Creating Joy! The Relationship E-newsletter, please visit http://www.DebraGordyMS.com/newsletter.html.   You will receive instructions for downloading your free bonus Special Report, THE Question that Will Transform Your Relationship! as soon as you confirm your subscription. 

The February issue, Keeping Your Romance Alive! goes out soon, so subscribe today!

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About Debra Gordy.  Debra Gordy, MS MRET is a Transformational Psychotherapist, Relationship Healing Intuitive and Spiritual Teacher.  Synthesizing her 20+ years’ expertise in conventional marriage and family therapy with cutting-edge energy therapies, and her innate lifelong gifts as a healing intuitive and spiritual guide, Debra specializes in helping divorced and remarried women to end their cycles of relationship pain, get off the relationship roller coaster, and create a new beginning for a happy, successful and lasting marriage.   To learn more, please visit Debra’s website:  www.CinderellaDreamsComeTrue.com.

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Creating Joy!  The Relationship E-newsletter is entering its fourth year, and readers are invited to help me write it this year!  

While I enjoy sharing with readers the Transformational insights, inspiration and practical self-help tips that I feel inspired to share each month – this monthly e-newsletter is for you.

My heartfelt desire has always been and continues to be, to help my readers:

        • Attract your special someone
        •Create or strengthen the marriage of your dreams
        • Experience more happiness, fulfillment and well- 
           being in your life and relationships –
           in short to Create Joy!  

This year, you are invited to share with me where you want more joy in your life!  You can do so by participating in the 2009 Creating Joy! Readers' Survey.  It is short and easy, and should only take you a few minutes to complete.  

Your answers will be completely confidential and private – no one will see them but me.  

Just as importantly, this is the way that you can tell me what you want to learn more about in the coming year, through:

      •Subsequent monthly issues of Creating Joy!
      •Teleclasses
      •Other valuable resources to assist you to create the life 
        and marriage of your dreams.  

All those who complete the 2009 Readers' Survey will receive a FREE e-preview copy of my book Cinderella Wisdom:  Five Secrets for Creating Your Dream Marriage in the Real World, when it is released later this year. 

As a special thank- you, all those who complete the Survey by Jan 26, 2009, are eligible to attend an exclusive teleclass:   How to Make Love Last a Lifetime!  

In this new teleclass, I will teach you the hidden underlying principles and actions, the tried and true secrets for creating a lasting, loving marriage.  

To take the survey, just click the link below that best describes you:

     Readers' Survey for Married Women

     Readers' Survey for Divorced Women

     Readers' Survey for Single Women
 
The teleclass, How to Make Love Last a Lifetime! will only be given once, and only for those who complete the Survey by Jan. 26, so I encourage you to complete it today! 

Just click one of the links above.

Thank you so much for taking the Readers' Survey and sharing your dreams with me.   It is my intention to fill these issues with Transformational answers and practical self-care tips to your questions, dilemmas and relationship challenges.  Your participation is crucial for it's success.
 
May your heart, life and relationships be filled to overflowing with joy this New Year!
 
Warmly,
Debra
 
 
Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach

Author of the forthcoming book  Cinderella Wisdom:  Five Secrets for Creating Your Dream Marriage in the Real World.
 
www.CinderellaDreamsComeTrue.com

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How to Keep Your Sanity when Interacting with Your Ex, Part II

Now that you have your plan for your own well-being during this often stressful time of year, it is time to consider Strategies Two and Three of Your Three Part plan for Holiday Success.

2. Remember that much of your children’s well-being is directly connected to yours.

That is why the first thing I teach divorcing parents about how to help their children cope with their parent’s divorce, is the importance of taking care of themselves. When you take care of yourself and your needs are met, you are much better prepared and able to meet your children’s needs, which many times are increased by the experience of your divorce.

Help yourself to meet your children’s needs, by having and following a plan for good self-care, as suggested above; and remember that your children love both their parents, and want to have a relationship with both you and their other parent. Just as your love for your first child is not diminished by loving a second child, so your children can and do love both of you.

Children who are secure in their relationship with their primary parent, are best supported and able to have the most effective relationship possible with the other one.

These are children who achieve the best adjustment to their parent’s divorce, with the least long-term negative impact.

This principle alone can help you marshal the personal reserves, ability and willingness to interact with your ex successfully at those holiday family events.


3. Follow a plan for holiday family events themselves:

• One of the best things you can do for yourself and your children, is to be centered and grounded in your own True Self before and during the event. Following the suggestions in the self-care plan above will go a long way toward helping you do that.

Also, learn and practice specific Centering techniques such as I teach in my Becoming Present to Yourself teleclass. These Centering exercises are an additional awesome strategy to be able to maintain your center and grounding, especially if you use these exercises as part of your daily self-care.

• Plan and give yourself permission to step into the guest bath to do a quick tune-up with Centering or your Transformational self-care tools, if you need to at anytime during the event.

• Schedule your time so you are not feeling rushed and stressed before arriving.

• If child exchanges can be stressful or difficult for you or your children, plan another time outside of the event, if possible, for exchanging children.

• Take some time beforehand, to visualize the event going well. See everyone getting along, and visualize that there are other people present with whom you enjoy interacting. Then focus on interacting with them.

• As much as possible, in your mind’s eye, see your ex-spouse as an acquaintance or business contact, with whom your interaction is pleasant, yet brief and impersonal. Then interact with your ex that way at the event. Just as you would not discuss personal or private topics with a casual acquaintance or business contact at a social gathering, you can also keep your interactions with your ex in a similar tone – pleasant, yet brief and limited to neutral, casual topics.

• If you anticipate the event being more difficult than you believe you can gracefully attend by yourself, even with all these tips and strategies, and if for your children’s sake, you feel it is important that you be there, then take a friend for support.

• If at other times, you drink alcohol, consider not drinking at this event, if it will be available. Even small amounts of alcohol will put you off Center and out of connection with your True Self. Even a small amount of alcohol will affect your thinking and your emotions. Even small amounts of alcohol diminish impulse control and impair clear reasoning and decision-making.

• Finally, commit to yourself to leave the event before you or your children are overly tired. By staying centered and grounded, you will be much more able to be aware and in tune with your own body’s signals, and in tune with your children’s, to know when this is.


Just like Jackie.

There you have it, three tips and several strategies for keeping your sanity, dignity, grace and poise when seeing your ex at holiday family events. How I wish I had known these things that first year after my divorce!

I know that if you follow these tips and:

1. Take good care of yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically,

2. Remember that your children will adjust best to your divorce when they have a good relationship with both parents, and

3. Follow a plan for the events themselves,

you can sail through your family holiday events that include your ex-spouse, with as much grace and poise as Jackie Kennedy.  They will go better for you, and your children will also likely have fun, and be more fun to be with!   You will feel grateful afterwards, and so will your children.   What a loving Christmas gift for all of you!


© 2008 Debra Gordy.  All Rights Reserved.


The above article is the latest issue of Debra'a ezine, Creating Joy! the Relationship E-newsletter.  To receive your FREE personal copy of this monthly e-zine, filled with timely inspiration and practical help for creating a successful marriage,  please subscribe on Debra's website. 

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