Sunday, October 23, 2011
â??Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.â?
~Buddha
The graphic image that I used last week about Worry
was so powerful for so many of you that I searched out this Flow Chart
of Anger to go with today's article. I love how the chart brings us
from the feelings of powerlessness that leads us into Anger to the
"situation changes" and back to Powerful and Healed! It also indicates
that if we do not change our strategy, we recycle the anger and so the
vicious cycle continues. Which just goes to show you that Letting go of
Anger is the path to Healing. Here are some statistics about ANGER for
you from the Web. When it comes to anger, studies have shown that:
- Almost a third of people polled (32%) say they have a close friend or family member who has trouble controlling their anger
- More than one in ten (12%) say that they have trouble controlling their own anger
- More than one in four people (28%) say that they worry about how angry they sometimes feel
- One
in five of people (20%) say that they have ended a relationship or
friendship with someone because of how they behaved when they were angry
- 64% either strongly agree or agree that people in general are getting angrier
Wow! While anger is unpleasant, we must remember that it is a
completely normal emotion. As a normal emotion that you simply pass
through, letting the feelings flow through and away from you, anger is
not particularly harmful. It is when we allow ourselves to fill with
anger that it becomes harmful to our being and our relationships.
The
attitude of ANGER is destructive to balance and harmony in the body.
IT is the feeling of "I'm not getting my way and I don't like it!"
ANGER is a force that can separate the soul from the body as it creates
such an intense, destabilizing energy within.
According to a study of more than 1,000 people at a Western
Electric factory in Chicago, over a 25-year period, those with anger
management problems were at a high risk of dying from coronary
problems, as well as cancer. Chronic anger is also linked with
weakening of the immune system, leading to life-threatening illnesses.
Anger affects the function of Liver
and Gall Bladder Energy in the body as well as Blood Essence and can
manifest in alcohol addiction.
The opposite of ANGER is Harmony & Balance. To balance
anger, HOLD the MIDDLE FINGER for about 5 minutes or until you can feel
a gentle rhythmic pulsing. Even and clear. Breath easily. Relax the
shoulders and smile from the very heart of you.
As you hold the MIDDLE FINGER, the destructive feelings of anger
begin to dissipate. The Middle Finger is the General Harmonizer of the
body. It is powerful for the respiratory system and promotes good
digestive function while releasing tension from the knees. As we come
into balance, we increase our capacity for compassion and reinstate
harmony.
Hold your middle finger whenever you feel "out of balance." As
Tomas Merton once wrote, "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of
balance, order, rhythm and harmony." Holding the middle finger will
remind you that balance is where you really want to live. Funny, isn't
it, that often the middle finger is used to express Anger! Why not use
it to balance and clear anger?
"Two things a man should never be angry at:
What he can help, and what he cannot help."
~Thomas Fuller